So, a few days back the kitchen disposer broke at home. When my days go between taking care of the house, raising teenagers, leading teams in my day job and be entrepreneur on the side, a simple unpredicted challenge can send me spinning ( an inconvenience like a broken thing, sudden visit to the hospital, you know …life).
Thankfully for me, I am currently experimenting with building a different muscle on how to react to external environment as internal world would reflect the external one. I now welcome these inconveniences or discomfort as it helps me test my reaction to it or better say, non-reaction. Our world has increasingly become more and more comfortable, which is great as we can focus on what really matters to us…..or NOT. It tends to keep us distracted and as our intention and focus is not clear, we react to everything around us, which feels like being blown in the wind of emotions like an autumn leaf in the wind.
Now, a kitchen disposer won`t kill my mood for the day. Before someone says something like : “This is stupid, why would you get mad or upset for that?” , I want to say I was the first one to say that when I lived by myself or was much younger and I only had to take care of me.
Meditation, Generative Trance ( that I practice with my clients in Deep Coaching sessions) are tools to help not react to the environment and learn to react as the Chinese farmer in the famous Chinese fable ( you can google it, here is one link with it https://www.craftdeology.com/the-story-of-the-chinese-farmer-by-alan-watts/).
We often have something happen that we would label as bad or good and our mood focuses on that thought. Thoughts come first and then, emotions is a big revelation for me. We can learn to be non-judgmental ( takes a lot of unlearning for me and my clients) towards what happens around us and IN us and just accept it.
How often people say in retrospect “losing that job/ breaking up with him/her/ fill in the blank bad thing was the best thing that happened to me? 100% of us don’t think that when it was happening, and if we can train ourselves to stay calm during minor setbacks and look them up in perspective, we may get the energy and attention back to ourselves and focus it on what really matters to us.
I take the time to think what that is on a weekly basis. What is the ONE thing this week you want to use your energy and focus?
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